Man Law #26 – STFU and Let Her Talk…
It is not necessary to do ALL the talking in a conversation. All you need to remember is that to a women, the most INTERESTING topic in the world, is herself… The last thing she wants to do is listen to her girlfriends bitch, moan and complain about the men in their life and all of their problems…that’s where you come in my friend. Admittedly, this can be hard to do,
Her goal is to drive you crazy...the way she does this is through talking...talking...and more talking...Once she has broken you down, you are easy to control...Her Mission has been Accomplished...
so you always want to make sure that if you are at a bar, to place her directly in front of a TV. That way, once she REALLY gets rolling, you can glance up at a UFC highlight and still pretend to listen…Periodically nod your head in agreement with what she has to say….Don’t worry, she’s not going any where with the conversation…
(Editorial Note: The first time I posted this Man Law on Facebook, I received immediate negative feedback…If you need to know NOT to watch television or ignore her while she is talking, then you need more help with women than I can provide…)
Active listening is a skill. You might not remember EVERY word she has to say, but if you keep asking questions and getting her to talk that is a good sign…You want to share very little about yourself unless she ask and even then, don’t go into your life story and how you were beaten up as a little kid and your parents left you in a grocery store…she DOES.NOT.CARE. She wants you to turn the conversation around and focus it back on her…
and if you got a place without tv’s (coffee shop, outdoor eatery, etc) place her so that there are you can people watch… but beware of too much people watching, just the same as too much tv watching… learning to watch without watching is a true skill…
The first three paragraphs of this law could be eliminated (for sexist and generally problematic content). For the essential point here, wouldn’t it be just as helpful for both interlocutors to be tuned in to the other? It’s fun to see where your conversational dynamic might go. I personally love little kid stories and would dig details if it’s a good story. But neither party should be talking more than the other.
yes man everybody should learn the skill of active listening.this skill is more than enough to hook the girls.you have to listen like the purpose of your birth is to listen her story and with 100% attention even though the story is boring and banal repeated number of times.