Comments on: Man Law #58 – A.B.D.S.E – Always Be Doing Something Else…

By: DJ Long

DJ Long — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:50:34 +0000

I agree with all in this matter. I lead a very busy life, as Ethan can attest, and those that meet me AND inquire about what I do will soon understand that fact. Every man (and woman) should be passionate about their personal lives and what goes on within it. Having that drive and determination for most of us is what attracts us to another person beyond the physical attributes that initially caught our eye. Also, wanting to be a part of someone’s hectic schedule is a goal, especially for many women, because it validates their worth (in some degree). We all want to feel needed and appreciated, therefore if that person carves out a bit of time for you then you know there COULD be more. However, we should all be wary that at times if soemone has no plans for the evening it’s for a good reason. Because I often travel and work long hours, upon return or during a lull in my schedule, I prefer to do nothing or at least that I’ll have nothing planned. I am easily coerced out of my sweats to go chill at a bar or catch a movie. But there are ties when teh best thing is a night at home alone. So that’s my take…

By: chz

chz — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 05:37:47 +0000

your use of acronyms proves to me that you are a true Washingtonian! haha
Good post. My thought on this is that you should just stay active anyways. Don’t stay busy just so you can tell a girl that you are to make her attracted to you. Do it for yourself. It will give you more confidence (but hopefully not self-indulgence), which is the vital key of winning girls. There is a life outside of them, and pursuing your other goals will eventually find you very attractive to everyone, not just the women you want to date.

By: Ethan Bishop

Ethan Bishop — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:15:16 +0000

Awesome Elle, your examples nail the point on the head…It’s important for everyone to keep doing what they are doing and not change their life around because they think they’ve met the ONE…An active lifestyle is an attractive one!

By: Elle

Elle — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:07:43 +0000

I like guys who are A.B.D.S.E. When I meet a guy who is busy with work, sports, fundraising, volunteering, family, hobbies I automatically consider him a catch. On the other hand if I ask a guy what he’s doing and his response is “nothing just chillin” (WTF it’s 6:00 p.m. on a Tuesday)it’s an automatic turn off.I will consider him boring, lazy and not worth my time BUT if he said “just chillin for an hour before I hit the gym. I was up until 3:00 a.m. working on a project for work so I’m a little sleepy but the gym will give me some much needed energy, it looks like I will be working tonight! How was your day?” Now that is hot

Don’t break your plans in the beginning for a girl or at least don’t let her know you did! A guy did this for me and I thought he doesn’t take his life seriously, he’s desperate, or he’s a pushover. I lost interest within seconds. I wasn’t that in to him to start with but I was willing to give it a shot. I ended up canceling the date. OUCH!