Man Law #83 – Build As You Go!
“We can still be together, right here. In the world we built together” – Inception
It has been over a month since the last post, Man Law #82 – Fortune Favors The Bold hit the stands and needless to say, a number of people took the post to heart and ran with it. I have been honored and humbled by the countless number of personal messages and public recognition regarding this piece. A few people even surprised me with the question:
“Mr. Bishop, Where is the next Man Law?”
First, to the Unbreakable Audience and readers of the blog I wanted to tell you that A LOT has been going on behind the scenes as the blog continues to grow. While my friends and personal acquaintances can attest to the changes on the home front with relationship to my career, it is not always apparent, how these changes will affect the blog. Rest assured, there is much happening down like a boiling lava beneath the surface at The UML Command Center.
While the details are still under hush and whisper, you will see the results over the course of the next few months.
So, with that said, I’ll jump into the meat and potatoes of this post.
There is a general philosophy that I want to instill to the men out there reading the blog and that is the concept of “The Builder.” The women can sit back, relax and are encouraged to read, but this one is for the men out there.
Gentlemen, You want to be seen as a builder, someone who lifts people up, and moves them forward no matter where they are in life. Even though someone may seem to excel in one area of their life whether its sports, financials, women, you name it – there is probably an area that they fail miserably at – AND YOU ARE EXCELLENT. I ask for advice just about every single day and the day I stop, will be the day I die. I’m always learning…and right around the clock.
One of my old bosses, the father of 9 children, used to tell his sons and daughters that if you don’t learn something new every day, just turn back around and go back to sleep. I didn’t always agree with what he had to say, but I can be assured that I will remember this statement for the rest of my life and be sure to pass this on to those who come forth after me.
Now, I want to make it clear that a successful relationship takes many components, many which I continue to learn on a daily basis but a primary one is the idea of building and creating together. From DAY ONE to your funeral, I don’t care if you just met her at the bar, you need to be thinking of creating with her – whether its cooking a dinner together on a Sunday Night (And I’m not talking about picking up the wine, at the very least, you need to be cutting up some vegetables), having the idea to play pool or darts right at the bar, building a city or a sand castle on the beach – BUILD AS YOU GO.
Why is this important, you ask? I’ll tell you.
Some area deep in the male psyche tells us that physically doing activities together, builds bonds of connection. While women may be able to experience this bonding through verbally sharing there day with each other, men bond through actively doing task. The more visible the results of their efforts, the better. If they can look back and say “I built that,” this is very good and necessary for the male ego.
A few women out there, will no doubt disagree with me here. They believe that sharing everything about one another’s lives, their emotions, and how they feel is the way a man should connect with them. They believe they understand everything there is to know about being a man and if any of them do not know, they will be the first ones to tell him – what a “real man” would do…
Gentlemen, I’m here to say that you need no permission to be a man, there is no test you have to take and there is no final. You simply need to stand up, start DOING. CREATING. BUILDING and make sure that everything you touch lights on fire.
Until next time.
This is Bishop. Over and Out.