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Man Law #82 – Fortune Favors The Bold!

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“Things may come to those who wait but only the things left by those who hustle.” – Abraham Lincoln

A New Day. A New Year.  A New Man Law.

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The week before New Year’s Eve, I received a call from a friend of mine who has been following The Unbreakable Man Laws since the very beginning – He asked how the blog started and how it grew. As I started going through what worked for me,  I could tell from his questions and from talking with his other friends about his project that he was quickly becoming discouraged by all the different “potential” setbacks that might occur.

I told him that before he looked at all of the things that might go wrong, he needed to get moving in the right direction. If you are going to start blogging, start blogging. If you are going to write a book, start writing.  A bit of planning is always preferred and some VISION should be a factor of every decision that you make, yet at some point you need to realize that conditions will never be perfect and if you continue to wait until the stars are in alignment with the moon, you’ll be sitting around a bar ten years from now and talking to the bartender about all the things you should have done when you were younger.

While I was growing up my father used to ask me these rhetorical questions that I appalled whenever he saw me as not making progress – “Are you being productive? Or are you getting ready to ‘get ready?’ ” (Editorial Note: He STILL says this to me). These weren’t always the words I wanted to hear, they were the words I needed to hear. As someone who has been an avid weight lifter for over a decade, I frequently hear  friends who state that they wanted to get back to the gym, but when it got down  to it, it seemed that they needed the latest equipment, the weight lifting gloves, the Under Armour shorts, and the “City Sports” Shoes before they can go to the gym.  Slow down Schwarzenegger –  start with some pushups. A year later, they are saying the exact same thing “I need to get back into the gym.” They turn around and see me walking out the door and ask me where I’m going and I answer: “to the gym…”

“Wait, don’t you want to sit here and play X-Box?”


Their reason for failure is always OUTSIDE of what they consider their control. If X would just do this, and Y would just do that, their life would be perfect.

I’ve been around successful people my entire life and the one trait that I see in all of them is that when it comes to achieving the things that they want, they will first pick the goal, move in the direction of their goal and figure out how to get there on the way, or in other words – Ready. Fire. Aim. Wash. Rinse. And Repeat. (RFAWRAR)

I use this approach to business; I use it with people; I use it with personal (read: intimate) relationships. It’s gotten me in trouble quite a bit of times (with the latter) but I can say with absolute honesty and certainty that I have NEVER regretted making the first move. Even if I strike out miserably, I’ve achieved much  more by simply taking the first few steps without thinking about how to get there all too much.

“Fortes fortuna adiuvat” – Virgil

I’m not here to lecture you. Most of you have schools and bosses that can do that for you.  What I can say is that once in a while we can all use a peptalk because life isn’t always sugar and spice.

Go out and make big things happen for you in 2011. How will THIS year be different than the last? How will the people that you meet, relationships you have and your life be DIFFERENT than the last? If you haven’t already done so, write down your New Year’s Resolutions, tell some of your friends or even share your resolutions on Facebook with others.  I’m a big fan of telling other people my goals and when they don’t see me achieving them or even remotely moving in the direction of achieving them, they will call me out on it. At the end of the day, I appreciate those types of friends more than the ones that tell me what I want to hear, and not what I NEED to hear.

And if you are still sitting around after reading this post, shaking your head, and wondering, “What in the world does this post have to do with The Unbreakable Man Laws?

The answer is:


Happy New Year Everyone. Make it count!

“There are three kinds of people: those who make things happen. Those who watch things happen, and those who ask ‘What happened?'”

Which one are you?”

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  1. January 5, 2011 at 11:51 am

    Outstanding post, Ethan. I’ve always like “Fortes fortuna adiuvat” — it was the motto of my old Air Wing.

    My favorite quote: “… share your resolutions on Facebook with others. I’m a big fan of telling other people my goals and when they don’t see me achieving them or even remotely moving in the direction of achieving them, they will call me out on it.”

    So, emphasize to your friends: CALL ME ON IT. (Further state… if you’re NOT calling me on it, you’re really not being me friend.)

    And you’re right… it does have EVERYTHING to do with manhood.

  2. DJ Long
    January 5, 2011 at 8:35 pm

    Another great point of interest. To add to people’s typical “need” to feel “helpless” most people will say that “everything happens for a reason.” I disagree greatly. I developed the mantra/moto that “everything happens because of a decision.” (as posted on my fb page) However, I add to this statement that although we have “reasons” (sometimes – excuses) for a our decisions and that there are decisions others make that will have effects upon us; it’s how we deal with those decisions and the outcome that truly displays and demonstrates a man’s (person’s) ability to puch forward (not just push on). And to iterate Pete, we are a measure of our company/frends and they should help support/monitor your progress just as we should do for them.

  3. Han Solo
    January 6, 2011 at 10:44 am

    Excellent post. Make big things happen this year!

  4. January 25, 2011 at 11:26 am

    I couldn’t agree more. If you want something enough and prepared to work for it, why should anything stop you? Life is what you make it.

  5. Ed
    February 11, 2011 at 2:20 am

    I have just came across your blog and have been ploughing through all the man laws. I don’t know if you are truly brilliant of if I am just trying to reinforce my beliefs, but one thing I can say for sure is this:

    I am glad that there is another true male in this world, there is still hope for mankind. – out

  6. February 11, 2011 at 8:58 am

    Thank you, Ed! Glad you enjoy the blog and there is much more to come. The party is just getting started. You should also check the The UML Facebook Fan Page out for more updates and discussion: http://www.facebook.com/unbreakablemanlaws

    You are always a guest here! Enjoy the show.

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