Man Law #64 – Master the Zen Approach, Be Like Water.
“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid,outward things will disclose themselves.Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend.” – Bruce Lee, 1975 (Tao of Jeet Kune Do)
Contrary to popular belief, Bruce Lee wrote the first guide to picking up women. The original “Tao of Jeet Kune Do” contained a brilliant collection of his own personal “pick up artist” (more than just a coincidence) guidelines and life lessons. Instead of martial arts drawings, the guide had explicit self-drawn illustrations of maximum impact positions found in the Kama Sutra. His infamous one-inch punch was actually a complete hip movement lacking any hand involvement that he discovered during coitus. When publisher after publisher turned this guide down for its graphic depictions, Good Ole Bruce, changed the content to fit his “day job” profession as a martial artist. He kept many of the quotes the same because they applied to many situations whether they were involved with a woman or a desperate fight for your life. It is not by coincidence that the two are so closely related.
For lack of a better term, when you approach women, you should not think of it as an “approach”. Your mind needs to be open, free. Forget pick up lines. Pay attention to what’s around you in the moment. Hearing the word “approach” fires cylinders in your brain that tense your muscles and causes unnecessary tension. Your goal at this point is to jump right in the situation before your brain has a chance to talk yourself out of it. Jump In – Think Later. There are many times in your life that jumping in without thinking something through is not a good idea. This is not one of them.
The more you delay and “justify” the decision, the less likely you will decide on anything. My father used to call this “Getting Ready to ‘Get Ready’”. You can make sure you have the right shoes, right shorts, right t-shirt, right socks, right deodorant, but if you don’t get your ass out of the door, you’ll never make it to the gym before it closes.
When meeting people, your ultimate goal is to not consciously have a pre-determined destination in mind. The conversation should really “flow like water” and whatever subject matter strikes the interest of the two of you, go with it. You might subconsciously want to go home with her, but if she gets those vibes that you are going to hump her leg like the pug at her Aunt Peggy’s house, she’ll be gone faster than a Friday paycheck.