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Man Law #64 – Master the Zen Approach, Be Like Water.

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Free your mind from distraction. Go in there and Do it. Join a Yoga class and thank me later.

Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid,outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend.” – Bruce Lee, 1975 (Tao of Jeet Kune Do)

Contrary to popular belief, Bruce Lee wrote the first guide to picking up women. The original “Tao of Jeet Kune Do” contained a brilliant collection of his own personal “pick up artist” (more than just a coincidence) guidelines and life lessons. Instead of martial arts drawings, the guide had explicit self-drawn illustrations of maximum impact positions found in the Kama Sutra.  His infamous one-inch punch was actually a complete hip movement lacking any hand involvement that he discovered during coitus. When publisher after publisher turned this guide down for its graphic depictions, Good Ole Bruce, changed the content to fit his “day job” profession as a martial artist. He kept many of the quotes the same because they applied to many situations whether they were involved with a woman or a desperate fight for your life. It is not by coincidence that the two are so closely related.

You want a positive mind state when approaching and a "lifting" quality - Pick UP the person.

For lack of a better term, when you approach women, you should not think of it as an “approach”.  Your mind needs to be open, free. Forget pick up lines. Pay attention to what’s around you in the moment. Hearing the word “approach” fires cylinders in your brain that tense your muscles and causes unnecessary tension.  Your goal at this point is to jump right in the situation before your brain has a chance to talk yourself out of it.  Jump In – Think Later.  There are many times in your life that jumping in without thinking something through is not a good idea.  This is not one of them.

The more you delay and “justify” the decision, the less likely you will decide on anything. My father used to call this “Getting Ready to ‘Get Ready’”. You can make sure you have the right shoes,  right shorts, right t-shirt, right socks, right deodorant, but if you don’t get your ass out of the door, you’ll never make it to the gym before it closes.

When meeting people, your ultimate goal is to not consciously have a pre-determined destination in mind.  The conversation should really “flow like water” and whatever subject matter strikes the interest of the two of you, go with it. You might subconsciously want to go home with her, but if she gets those vibes that you are going to hump her leg like the pug at her Aunt Peggy’s house, she’ll be gone faster than a Friday paycheck.

  1. DJ Long
    November 18, 2009 at 10:24 pm

    Such truth spoken like a sensei for the new age… At the club or in bars when I see guys or even girls fail miserably, it’s because the make their approach as if landing on an aircraft carrier. they make at least one pass by, then try to land on the deck of the conversation with an urgent message. that message often is about themselves and not the situation or moment. this often gets looks of “really, did they just say/ask/come at me with that..?”
    I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try to land, just be mindful of the surounding metrics: atmosphere, mood, your plan/intentions, etc… but don’t be afraid of getting a “wave off” or having to wave yourself off. An eased attempt to strike up gneuine conversation will oft be more fruitful than a forced entry. Love this subject… and when applied to “people watching” in a bar it gives a great chance to put these lessons of the Master Bruce Lee to use…

  2. C.B
    November 19, 2009 at 11:21 am

    Thank You Masta’ Bishop ….This topic illudes to several other note worthy elements of dating and life. In my humble opinion you are talking about being authentic and geniune. And just about all that is genuine when most(not all) straight men see a beautiful woman is a cross between..”Mamma coo coo waaa mamma”,–A feeling of complete weakness and vulnerbilty — The thought of her naked — And — Uncontrollable excitment —
    Or maybe it is lingering resentment, anger or hurt..
    Now sure, almost instantaneously and unconsciously we put on a cool guy , pimp mask and convince ourselves that we’re a lion and shes a gazelle…But this is as inauthentic as is gets.
    Either way,,, THIS is what we are up against, Ourselves …. and the emotions we don’t know how to deal with. They take hold and beat us like we stole somethin’. But boyyyyyyy,,,Whatch someone talk to women whos comfortable with themselves and strong enough to just… be vulnerble …or maybe even a little nervous ..A.K.A “Real” … and damn .. you won’t believe your &%$#ing eyes..

  3. vhs
    November 22, 2009 at 11:08 am

    “THIS is what we are up against, Ourselves …. and the emotions we don’t know how to deal with. They take hold and beat us like we stole somethin’. But boyyyyyyy,,,Whatch someone talk to women whos comfortable with themselves and strong enough to just… be vulnerble …”

    Nailed it.

    We find the essence of our being disturbed by being egotistical, irrationally passionate, impatient, brutal, self-critical and petrified of failure.. Accepting vulnerability (i.e. No pre-created or superfluous pick-up line masking weakness or lessening the blow that may or may not kick our ego’s ass) will lead us to our own personal confidence and freedom, which breathes life to our relationships and essentially our happiness and self-worth.

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