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It’s coming up on the 1-year anniversary of The Unbreakable Man Laws and we’ve decided to restructure a bit. Out with the OLD and in with the NEW. You may notice a few of these changes immediately. First and foremost, I’d like to introduce a new UML page dedicated to dating and relationship articles that have been submitted to me over the past few months. If you are ever in search of interesting new reading material, be sure to check out this page.
https://unbreakablemanlaws.com/repository/
For those of you who have YET to see the Unbreakable Man Law Fan Page on Facebook, be sure to join here: http://www.facebook.com/unbreakablemanlaws. I’ve met and spoken with a number of individuals that are surprised that over 25% of the facebook fans ARE women and this number is increasing!
One of the most rewarding experiences I’ve had since starting the blog has been meeting new people through it and seeing my friends make new friends completely through discussions that took place on the Fan Page. We invite you to debate and share your opinion. We are always looking for new “Questions For The Audience,” questions posed by YOU and for YOU. Whatever the case may be, you’ll find hours of reading material and debate while you are bored at work!
Feel free to send in your topic suggestions to: suggestions@unbreakablemanlaws.com
We’ve got plenty in store for the upcoming year – more Man Laws, more Man Theory, more Interviews, more Guest Posts, and plenty of good times along the way.
As always, I love hearing feedback from you guys – what works, what doesn’t work, and what you would change (although I retain veto power…duh). Feel free to send me a message at any time.
It’s still a war out there Gentlemen, and the women are STILL winning!
But not for long…
We have a plan.
Cheers,
Ethan
ethanbishop@unbreakablemanlaws.com
Man Law #80 – Integrity. Integrity. Integrity.
You can’t build a reputation on something you are going to do.” – Henry Ford
To my utter surprise, when Man Law #79 was posted, it received some immediate flames from not only fans but close friends. “How did this happen?” was the first question that entered my mind. I’m always looking for constructive criticisms from those who are not going to hold back. Every now and then a rage-filled response to something I’ve written is not only appreciated but deserved. So after hearing some valuable feedback and opinions from friends and readers, I came to the following conclusion and thought I’d take some time to clarify the two points I hoped readers walked away with after reading the last entry:
If you look for the definition of "Integrity", you'll see a picture of "Cary Grant." Just trust me on this one. Rent any movie he's been in and take notes Gentlemen!
1) Women have an amazing ability to recall most, if not all, things that you say…
and with this in mind…
2) Follow through your words with actions.
That’s it!
Instead, a large number of readers left the post with the following belief:
They [Women] are waiting for you to screw up and say something you don’t mean in order to call you out on it later at your moment of weakness. They’ve got both ears perked, cameras rolling, and are listening to your every word, every gasp that leaves your mouth for a HINT that you may be talking out of your ass and filled with BS.
Now, in order to make things interesting, sometimes it’s necessary to embellish the story and add a few exaggerations here and there. It’s a blog (read: fun entertainment). For those who have been reading for a while, you’ve hopefully come to understand my tongue-in-cheek instructional methodology. If not, please start from the beginning here.
(Editorial Note: For those of you who have an aversion to mathematical symbols and Physics references, you may want to read something else now!)
Which brings me to the subject of the current post, Man Law # 80 – Integrity.Integrity.Integrity. or I3 if you’re nasty. Pronounced: “I-cubed” for short.
Integrity along with one other item, which I’ll mention in a later post and starts with the letter “P”, is one of the most important factors that every man has working for him. As soon as you meet a new woman, whether she knows it or not, she is subconsciously saying to herself “Is this guy as good as he appears or says that he is?” If she’s not thinking this, chances are she’s saying to herself “Get this guy away from me.”
Integrity is one of those things you have to show right from the start. At T=0 of your initial interaction, you have a blank slate and this is why its important to set the right framework from the very beginning; If you say you are going to call her at 2:00pm on Tuesday, then call her at 2:00pm on Tuesday. If you say you are going to take her out on Friday at 8:00pm, then take her out on Friday at 8:00pm. Simply following up with these little things can make a big difference in how she sees you. It shows that you do what you say and that you follow through or in other words – you’re responsible.
"I'm sorry, I'll call you earlier when I'm going to be late next time!" - Soon-to-be-Deceased Dan
Brief aside, if you are running late or think you’ll have to postpone the date until later, don’t call 5 minutes before hand to cancel. Even if I’m held up in traffic, I’ll text/call the person beforehand and state that I will be 30 minutes late. This will give you bonus points in the end.
Although I run this blog, people sometimes falsely assume that I am claiming to be a dating expert. I’m not. In fact, I got called an “asshole/jerk” a few minutes before I posted this, but the point is, I’m willing to admit mistakes and move on. Occasionally, I’ll even squeeze out an apology or two when I feel I’ve done something really wrong (and I’ve already filled my apology quota for the year).
Women’s lives are filled with guys who overpromise and under deliver. It’s part of the reason why many give us such hard times in the first place. In almost all areas of life that I can think of, its better for the reverse to be true. Better to under-promise and overdeliver and produce that “Wow” effect (Credit: Zappo’s CEO Tony Hsiesh for that observation). If she’s expecting McDonalds and you take her to McCormicks, you’ve produced that “Wow” effect. Before I start veering off topic, let me end Man Law #80 as directly as possible. I lost the original Aristotle quote I had planned to use so Tony Montana, Scarface will have to do:
“All I have in this world is my balls and my word and I don’t break them for no one. Do you understand?” – Scarface
Integrity. Gentlemen. This is Ethan Bishop. Over and Out.
Comments Welcome.
Man Law #79 – Anything You Say Can and WILL Be Used Against You…
“You have the right to remain silent.
Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law.
You have the right to an attorney.
If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be appointed to you.
Do you understand these rights as they have been read to you?”
-Originally spoken at Wedding Ceremonies to the Groom
Of course, getting arrested might not be ALL that bad...
Now women don’t go about reading you these rights at the beginning of a relationship, but it sure would make things a whole lot easier if they did! Dating a woman is a lot like entering a verbal contract with the law. As soon as the two of you start seeing each other more seriously, a mental list is set up in her head. If you violate anything on this list, she checks this off and puts it in a category called “Things I’m going to change.” At this point, it’s safe to say that you’ve passed all of the “Red Flags From Last Night ,” however, your job is FAR from over. In fact, in many ways, it is only the beginning. Just because you’ve been admitted, doesn’t mean you’ll graduate! Common items that she’ll note on her list:
If you have a habit of wearing two different colored/styled socks. Check.
If you love wearing shirts that went out of style in the 70s. Check.
If your dance moves look like they were stolen from Napoleon Dynamite. Check.
If you have a habit of saying things and not following through with them. Check. Check. RED FLAG. RED ALERT. Man your stations.
And its this last item that is the subject of this Unbreakable Man Law.
Right from the start of the courtship process, you need to make absolutely sure you don’t promise anything that you know you cannot deliver. If you promised her an all expense paid round world trip exactly 384 days from the day that you first met her, you better be sure that on the 384th day, your ass is at the airport. Don’t think for a second that just because you were drunk at 3:45am in the morning when you said it that she would forget. She won’t.
In fact, a lot of women have such good memory when it comes to these sorts of things, that she’ll repeat verbatim something you said 3-4 years ago. It’s like a cruel “Jedi Mind Trick.” Women are so good at this that a lot of them can convince you of saying things you really didn’t! Observe.
Girl: “Hey Johnny, remember when you said you’d take me to Barbados?”
Guy: “What? I never said that! ” (Denying it makes you look guilty already, better to keep quiet and give her the blank stare until she continues)
Girl: “Yes, you did. It was on our 4th date – June 21, 2003, when you took me to Ben and Jerry’s after the baseball game. We were driving down 35th Street, had just passed Macy’s on our right and out of nowhere you said ‘I’m taking you to Barbados’ “
Guy: “I did?”
Girl: “Yes. You did.”
Guy: “I guess I did…really?”
Girl: “YESSSS!” (raises voice, crosses her arms and acts annoyed)
At this point, its over with. She’s already got you where she wants you.
Guy: “I guess I’m taking you to Barbados then…”
Girl: “You’re right!”
Gentlemen, for those of you staring around looking confused, don’t worry. It happens to the best of us. This is why its important to remember “Anything you say can and WILL be used against you.” You can easily solve this by only promising small things at the beginning and following up with them. If you say you’ll take her out to dinner next week, then FOLLOW through with it because she will NOT forget. She’ll just think “He said he was going to take me out to dinner on Friday, and its Wednesday, and he hasn’t said anything. I hope he doesn’t think I forgot.”
Here is an easy way to be a hero and really shine through, make the reservations on Tuesday and set it in stone. If you build up enough times of stating things that you follow through with, missing once or twice won’t knock you out of the ball park. You will now have a HISTORY of past instances that you can build off on and that is one of the most powerful things you can bring to a relationship. Integrity. He does what he says he’s going to do – 99.9% of the time!
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