The Unbreakable Man Laws

In her mind, you only have a certain amount of time while fresh...she wants to know how you taste now and you will only get worse with age...

After the initial encounter whether at a party or another outing, the woman has unconsciously (or consciously) given you a shelf life…She has told herself – “This guy has X number of days to talk to me before I throw him out.”  In this case, the variable X represents her interest level. Generally, the higher the number, the longer you will last.  If you do not hurry up and initiate a second interaction with her and soon, most women have no problem “tossing” you out. There will be times to take things slowly, however, the beginning is not the time.

The problem here is that once you’ve been tossed in the trash, it’s HARD to convince her to take you back out, brush you off, and put you back in the refrigerator.  Would you do it?

Guys act differently. See, once a guy gets a number or meets a new woman, often times, he will throw her in the freezer. He wants her to last…a long, long time… He might have other women that are out on the stove that he’s currently cooking with that he hasn’t eaten yet (no pun intended)…Men, in general, are not good at managing multiple women.  Our brains are simply not wired that way and there is too much to handle.  Unless he has a good way to manage multiple women, a man will typically stick with where he is getting fed at the moment.  If he enjoys the steak at one restaurant, why should he walk into a new place which might not offer anything that he likes? He would much rather view what the restaurant has to offer on a menu up front on the outside, than risk losing what he already has going for him.

A guy never throws a woman in the trash.  If things don’t work out between the two of you, he’ll throw her back in the freezer and hope to take her out much later (sometimes months or years) hoping she forgot (or forgave him for screwing it up the first time…).  Depending on how ATTRACTED to the woman the man is, a woman in the freezer will NEVER expire. He’ll never take her out of there if he can help it. In fact, the only person who will clear out his freezer, and whats cooking on the stove…will be another woman and probably the one that he is most serious about…

You are worth the MOST to her in the first few encounters.  This is when you are in her mind and on her radar. All things being equal, you only have a finite amount of time before she throws you out or worse, puts you in the friend zone. We’ve gone over the Friend Zone before in Man Law #10.  There are very few things you can do to resurrect yourself out of the Friend Zone.  In fact, it’s damn near impossible.

Now, you’ve met the girl, you’ve got her number, and you want to know when to contact her. Standard Operating Procedure states “The Man must contact her on the 3rd Day”.  I say, screw that. There have been so many different times where I personally have not “waited” 3 days and things have still progressed to a second or third meeting that it is not worth mentioning. What IS worth mentioning is that you must initiate further contact with her.  Some women and they are few and far between WILL initiate either a Facebook Friend request, a text message the day after, or some other way of contacting you (and I have no idea what this could be).  It’s been my experience, however, that in the majority of cases, whether she is interested in you or not, she expects that YOU will be the initiator.

Important factors to consider when contacting her for the first time are:

• Where you met?

• How you met?

• How long you spoke?

As a general rule, the next day can easily be interpreted as “OVERLY EAGER”, which we have gone over as being a big, BIG, turn off to most women.  Now, write this down because every woman I spoke to about the man CALLING the next day described this as being overly eager.  In fact, each and every woman I asked, stated the exact same thing.   HOWEVER, sending a text as opposed to calling the next day, stating something unique about the initial encounter is good, and contacting her on the 2^nd day to plan a second interaction is typically the way to go… So Gentleman, if you take nothing else from this post:

Text her the next day only. NEVER Call the next day. It doesn't matter if she just gave you her card and told you to contact her or the two of you went home together....Keep it short and simple....TEXT

Day 0: Initial Meeting (Bar/Party) – You’ve met her at a party and she has given you HER contact information.

Day 1: Send a Text stating something unique about her from the meeting on Day 0 (that’s right, within the first 24-48 hours of initially meeting her). A unique text to your initial interaction will be good…

Day 2: Call to set up a date in the future that you will get together.

Day 3: Men haven’t waited until Day 3 since the 60s…In this day and age of Twitter and Facebook and with communication tools that can send messages across the world in seconds…3 days is overly traditional to many women and interest in you will decrease exponentially from this point on…

…What she doesn’t want is for YOU to know that you are doing it!

True story…

Girl: “Have you ever read any of those Picking-Up Women books?”

She will always compare you with the storybook Prince she read about as a child...What she doesn't know is that Prince Charming was taking lessons from every player in the land...

Guy: “Why?”

Girl: “Oh…no reason…I’m just curious?!”

Guy (smirks): “Is it working?”

Girl (smirks back): “Yes….”

Any effort on your part which shows pre-planning prior to any sexual physicality in the relationship between the two of you, will most likely be judged by her as being manipulative. She might say “If the two of you are right for each other, than you shouldn’t have to do anything, it will just come naturally“…Gentlemen, this is WOMAN CODE for “I’m lazy.” Unfortunately, a man does not have that luxury of simply staying put and having women shower him with love and affection. He must DO something to win her over.

It’s been my experience that women want to be seduced…what they don’t want is for YOU to be consciously aware that you are seducing them.  In an age of gender equality, the role of the man is no longer as defined as it once was…No longer is simply having a job and a college education enough to land a woman.  She can now easily have everything that she needs to handle these things independent of whether a man is in her life or not.  Thus, it is now necessary for a man to hold the knowledge of what is attractive to women.  Some may call this “game”, others might call it survival. For if he does not learn this by the time of his death, his “dynasty” will come to an end.

If your game is tight (as they say) and she ask you:

Water has a relaxing effect on people. When people are relaxed, they are more susceptible to seduction and influence...Did you really think people started going for "Walks on the Beach" purely by coincidence?

Cute Girl: “Have you read “The Game?”

Your answer and only answer should be:
You: “I am aware of its existence.”

Moving On.

It’s baffling to most men, including myself, why a woman can subject herself to hundreds of articles from Cosmo on how to pick up guys, yet scoff at any attempt by you to increase your ability to do better with women…case in point, less than a 10 minute search in Cosmo, revealed the following articles:

• How Can I Get Him To Do What I Want Him To Do

• Get Him To Call You

• How Do I Pick Up A Guy

• How To Decode his Body Language

If you’ve taken a look at any of these links, you can see that none of them are outright malicious in nature.  The women asking these questions seem genuinely interested in understanding men and how we operate. Yet, the reverse simply is not true.  Gentlemen, next time your lady friend is over, print out a few of these articles and spruce them casually around your place. See how differently the tables will turn when you leave these articles out:

• Get Her To Give You A Blow Job

• How To Take Things Sexual

What’s your take, should either men or women be allowed to study how to pick up the opposite sex? Is it “wrong” to use tactics to pick up someone that you are interested in? Should everything simply come naturally?