Man Law #48 – Women View Men Like Vegetables at Whole Foods, They Want them Fresh and Get Rid of them after they Expire…
After the initial encounter whether at a party or another outing, the woman has unconsciously (or consciously) given you a shelf life…She has told herself – “This guy has X number of days to talk to me before I throw him out.” In this case, the variable X represents her interest level. Generally, the higher the number, the longer you will last. If you do not hurry up and initiate a second interaction with her and soon, most women have no problem “tossing” you out. There will be times to take things slowly, however, the beginning is not the time.
The problem here is that once you’ve been tossed in the trash, it’s HARD to convince her to take you back out, brush you off, and put you back in the refrigerator. Would you do it?
Guys act differently. See, once a guy gets a number or meets a new woman, often times, he will throw her in the freezer. He wants her to last…a long, long time… He might have other women that are out on the stove that he’s currently cooking with that he hasn’t eaten yet (no pun intended)…Men, in general, are not good at managing multiple women. Our brains are simply not wired that way and there is too much to handle. Unless he has a good way to manage multiple women, a man will typically stick with where he is getting fed at the moment. If he enjoys the steak at one restaurant, why should he walk into a new place which might not offer anything that he likes? He would much rather view what the restaurant has to offer on a menu up front on the outside, than risk losing what he already has going for him.
A guy never throws a woman in the trash. If things don’t work out between the two of you, he’ll throw her back in the freezer and hope to take her out much later (sometimes months or years) hoping she forgot (or forgave him for screwing it up the first time…). Depending on how ATTRACTED to the woman the man is, a woman in the freezer will NEVER expire. He’ll never take her out of there if he can help it. In fact, the only person who will clear out his freezer, and whats cooking on the stove…will be another woman and probably the one that he is most serious about…
You are worth the MOST to her in the first few encounters. This is when you are in her mind and on her radar. All things being equal, you only have a finite amount of time before she throws you out or worse, puts you in the friend zone. We’ve gone over the Friend Zone before in Man Law #10. There are very few things you can do to resurrect yourself out of the Friend Zone. In fact, it’s damn near impossible.
Now, you’ve met the girl, you’ve got her number, and you want to know when to contact her. Standard Operating Procedure states “The Man must contact her on the 3rd Day”. I say, screw that. There have been so many different times where I personally have not “waited” 3 days and things have still progressed to a second or third meeting that it is not worth mentioning. What IS worth mentioning is that you must initiate further contact with her. Some women and they are few and far between WILL initiate either a Facebook Friend request, a text message the day after, or some other way of contacting you (and I have no idea what this could be). It’s been my experience, however, that in the majority of cases, whether she is interested in you or not, she expects that YOU will be the initiator.
Important factors to consider when contacting her for the first time are:
- Where you met?
- How you met?
- How long you spoke?
As a general rule, the next day can easily be interpreted as “OVERLY EAGER”, which we have gone over as being a big, BIG, turn off to most women. Now, write this down because every woman I spoke to about the man CALLING the next day described this as being overly eager. In fact, each and every woman I asked, stated the exact same thing. HOWEVER, sending a text as opposed to calling the next day, stating something unique about the initial encounter is good, and contacting her on the 2nd day to plan a second interaction is typically the way to go… So Gentleman, if you take nothing else from this post:
Day 0: Initial Meeting (Bar/Party) – You’ve met her at a party and she has given you HER contact information.
Day 1: Send a Text stating something unique about her from the meeting on Day 0 (that’s right, within the first 24-48 hours of initially meeting her). A unique text to your initial interaction will be good…
Day 2: Call to set up a date in the future that you will get together.
Day 3: Men haven’t waited until Day 3 since the 60s…In this day and age of Twitter and Facebook and with communication tools that can send messages across the world in seconds…3 days is overly traditional to many women and interest in you will decrease exponentially from this point on…