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Man Law #32 – Enter The Wingman. Your first line of defense against both the male and female cockblock.

August 31, 2009 3 comments

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The Wingman is your trusted partner in crime. Always building you up in front of people and your backup in tough situations.

The Wingman is your trusted partner in crime. Always building you up in front of people and your backup in tough situations.

The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish, and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother’s keeper, and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger, those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know my name is the Lord, when I lay my vengeance upon thee..” Ezekiel 25:17 (Performance by Samuel L. Jackson)

The Wingman is your  friend and ally. He should be willing to take one for the team. His goal is to keep the friends of the female of interest occupied through conversation, while you engage the women.  A good wingman can be boiled down to this fundamental principle – he will ALWAYS MAKE YOU LOOK BETTER. He does this by talking about how great you are to her, how you rescued those little kids from a burning school bus and how you take your nieces out for dinner every Valentine’s Day…

No matter what personal issues may be going on between you and the wingman, ALWAYS speak HIGHLY of your friends in front of her. Making him look bad will only make you look bad too. The antithesis to the Wingman IS the cockblock. You can read about the types of cockblocks and how to deal with the cock block in Man Law #28. Here’s a good article on being a good Wingman.

There are plenty of resources on the internet on the Art Of the Wingman, here are only a few:

Man Law #31 – Match the ratio of the target female group to the men in your group.

August 31, 2009 4 comments

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Women love 'Battle of the Sex' games...Great example of 'Competitive Yet Playful' concept in action.

Women love 'Battle of the Sex' games...Great example of 'Competitive Yet Playful' concept in action.

Three guys going up to one women will intimidate her – 2:3, men to women, is a good ratio to have in a small group at a bar or club. Unless its a guys night out,  going out in groups of 3+ guys is tough to manage in social situations…

Anything more than 3 and you want to have a women in there somewhere… Mixed crowds are more approachable then single sex ones.  Acknowledge both girls and guys in the group immediately when you approach. If the girl you are showing interest in gets the feeling that her friends are being ignored this will backfire on YOU! If you are one guy going into a group of 3 or more women, you may want to call for backup.  Enter the Wingman…Man Law #32.

Man Law #30 – Develop your OWN Man Laws.

August 31, 2009 1 comment

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Start writing your own Man Laws...

You need to have a set of principles that YOU live by.  These don’t have to be cast in stone and indeed they should change as you learn more., but you need to have certain principles that you stand up for and believe in. Ultimately, the best laws are the ones that you come to conclusion through your own experience!

Man Law #29 – If a woman is difficult at the beginning, chances are she’s not going to get any better. Be able to say “NEXT” and move on!

August 30, 2009 1 comment

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There really isn’t any way to tell if the woman is WRONG for you the first few times you meet her. Many women have their guard up and think that men pretty much are not to be trusted. You can test the waters a bit, but in general, if you feel like you are constantly fighting an uphill battle every time you go out with her, and at the end of the date/interaction, you feel hopeless and confused…she’s not for you.

Some women are aware of this social taboo, and poke fun at it. There are plenty of women who are both very attractive and down to earth. Find them!

Some women are aware of this social taboo, and poke fun at it. There are plenty of women who are both very attractive and down to earth. Find them!

This women is most likely associating a negative previous relationship to you which you have no control over. Perhaps her last boyfriend hurt her and she has begun to associate you with him. It’s not your job to take her BS, at least not at the beginning…After you get married, you’re on your own…

Man Law #28 – THOU SHALT NOT COCKBLOCK THY NEIGHBOR

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Joshua Bernstein, a freelance writer in the New York Press, defined a cockblock as the following in this published article: :

We hope that the new administration brings a "No Cockblocking" Law to the floor of the Supreme Court...

We hope that the new administration brings a "No Cockblocking" Law to the floor of the Supreme Court...

cockblock [n] -( \ˈkäk – bläk\) – “a foul act in which someone interferes with another’s attempt at finding happiness inside someone’s pants.”

Cockblocks are shape shifters and come in all forms and sizes – male, female, black, white, dog, cat, republican and democrat. The most common cockblockers you will encounter are:

#1-The Female Cockblock-This women is an enemy to you. She knows who you want (not her) and will block your advance at all cost. A Wingman is your ally in this situation and he will need to run diversions within the group to keep the female cockblock’s attention on him and not on you. Dan Tolumbro wrote this article on dealing with the Female Cockblock.

#2-The Inadvertent Cockblock-This is a friend of yours who unknowingly talks to you or the girl while you flirt with her. In some cases these can be the worst types of cockblocks because a) you genuinely like this person but he/she has no clue that you are attempting to “close the deal” and b) The inadvertent cockblock might not know anyone at the venue and due to shyness might be sticking by you.  The best way to deal with this is to introduce the inadvertent cockblock to the woman you are speaking with…then “LEAVE”. Yes, that’s right, leave and go somewhere  else so he/she is left to talk with her. Come back a few minutes, or even many conversations later… This can send a subliminal signal to both people that they need to switch places. It’s almost like a form of musical chairs. Again, you must proceed cautiously with this form of cockblocking…

#3-The Conscious Cockblock-The worst kind of cockblock. A “friend” or stranger who consciously interrupts your flirtations with the girl…You need to separate her from this person as soon as possible. If there are games (pool/beer pong/cards) that the two of you can team up on,  tell her you want to play and that you need a partner.  These people are no fun to deal with and you may need to call in the reserves (i.e. Wingman) to deal with the intruder…

Cockblocking is such a prevalent issue in the dating world, I included links to more resources:

Man Law #27 – The Victorian Principle – Nothing makes a woman happier than telling you “YOU’RE WRONG” and that “I’m Different”…

August 29, 2009 2 comments

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STAND YOUR GROUND Gentlemen. Although she will most likely not listen to any reasoning that you have to say, do NOT just apologize immediately and give in to her. Of course, she is different. She has come to her conclusions and opinions on life, just like you, based on what she has seen and her experiences. Listen to her views, but stand your ground, state your opinion, and if necessary shield your face if she’s a slapper…

Print Out and Study this chart!

Print Out and Study this chart!

Now, when she calls you out on being “wrong”, she MOST LIKELY has a lot to say… She might say “You’re Wrong” or “That’s BS” and give you the silent treatment for a bit but the truth is…she wants you to keep asking her questions to draw the answer out of her… This can be tough. You have to create an atmosphere that shows that you will be receptive to what she has to say before she’ll share her answer or why she feels that way. If she truly thinks that you won’t listen, she will not talk.

Even if you "win" the argument...you will "lose" the war...

Even if you "win" the argument...you will "lose" the war...

(Editorial Note: This lesson has been named “The Victorian Principle” after a lovely, young woman, who found it necessary to be the first one to tell me that I was wrong after posting a Man Law that she did not agree with…she did it so often that I formed Man Law #27 and named it in her honor. )

Man Law #26 – STFU and Let Her Talk…

August 28, 2009 5 comments

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It is not necessary to do ALL the talking in a conversation. All you need to remember is that to a women, the most INTERESTING topic in the world, is herself… The last thing she wants to do is listen to her girlfriends bitch, moan and complain about the men in their life and all of their problems…that’s where you come in my friend. Admittedly, this can be hard to do,

It can be HARD to listen to women...but the alternatives aren't exactly promising...

Her goal is to drive you crazy...the way she does this is through talking...talking...and more talking...Once she has broken you down, you are easy to control...Her Mission has been Accomplished...

so you always want to make sure that if you are at a bar, to place her directly in front of a TV. That way, once she REALLY gets rolling, you can glance up at a UFC highlight and still pretend to listen…Periodically nod your head in agreement with what she has to say….Don’t worry, she’s not going any where with the conversation…

(Editorial Note: The first time I posted this Man Law on Facebook, I received immediate negative feedback…If you need to know NOT to watch television or ignore her while she is talking, then you need more help with women than I can provide…)

Active listening is a skill.  You might not remember EVERY word she has to say, but if you keep asking questions and getting her to talk that is a good sign…You want to share very little about yourself unless she ask and even then, don’t go into your life story and how you were beaten up as a little kid and your parents left you in a grocery store…she DOES.NOT.CARE.  She wants you to turn the conversation around and focus it back on her…

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