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Man Law #54 – Be The Mayor

October 5, 2009 4 comments

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When you are in a social situation such as at a party, event, utilize the concept of being the Mayor. Being the Mayor means that you are meeting and greeting, introducing yourself to new people and introducing new sets of people to other sets of people.  You can think of this as if you are running for Mayor and you want people to vote for you.  The first thing you have to do is make sure people know who you are.

As soon as you step into the venue, "Be the Mayor" and work the room...Think of yourself like Social Glue that brings people together...

As soon as you step into the venue, "Be the Mayor" and work the room...Think of yourself like Social Glue that brings people together...

A Brazilian friend of mine is an excellent case study in “Being the Mayor“. As soon as he walks in the door, he smiles, either greets or introduces himself to the first person in the vicinity, shakes their hand if he feels necessary and moves on…By the time people realize that they don’t know him,  he’s moved to the next person.

This is a quick, in and out, introduction…DO NOT LINGER…You simply Make Eye contact, Smile, Greet/Introduce, and move on…

Naturally extroverted people have a distinct advantage in doing this, however, anyone can learn to strike up a conversation with a person whose views might differ STRONGLY from your own.  These acquaintances might not become your next best friend, but in the art of social networking, having the ability to talk to anyone, is a powerful characteristic to have…

In order to develop this “Mayor” characteristic, and reduce anxiety you may feel to meet strangers,  I suggest saying “HI” to everyone you meet…whether its the janitor in your building to the President of your company. This includes at times such as when you are at the grocery store, the gym,  walking down the hallway, say “Hello” to any and everyone.  Your goal here is to simply look up and notice people around you. At this point, it’s not necessary to continue the conversation or build rapport, simply greet the person, and move on. Through enough of these cold-approach experiences, talking to a beautiful woman will not be a problem… You may still experience a little bit of anxiety, however, this anxiety will not be debilitating and you will be able to carry on a relaxed, flirty and fun, conversation with any woman you are around…

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