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Man Law #60 – Cultivate Insatiable Curiosity!
A man’s natural instinct is to stick with what works. Instead of taking chances in life, he will easily fall into a creature of habit. It is for that reason that Man must consciously hunger for knowledge. As a vampire requires blood for survival, Man shall crave knowledge. Your value in society is your ability to look at the exact same situation as everyone else and draw a unique conclusion.
Ponder Thy Flower. Look at everyday situations "anew".
Society has done a wonderful job of dulling and numbing your senses. It’s goal is to make you forget your basic nature of survival and make you dependent on manufactured goods. A man who has forgotten how to ask questions, is a man who is easily controlled.
Ultimately your ability to differentiate yourself from your brother and sister will be that which will attract those around you. You can grow this distinctive quality by thirsting for knowledge that you naturally find interesting. If your interest is in music and the arts, feverishly seek every avenue which will help you learn them to mastery. If your interest is in math and physics, attend every lecture and study every book at your disposal. Attend classes, read everything on the subject you can get your hands on, talk to masters in the field, your sincerity in learning will remind those who you consult for advice why they love what they are doing…
Man’s best friend is the perfect example of how your thirst for knowledge should look like…When on a leash, you should strain to break free, strain to get out there and just…go. Every walk, an adventure; Every leaf, a mystery; Every season, a gift. Struggle to creatively look at normally “mundane” situations in a creative new light. Your ability to do this will prove fascinating to those around you…
There is a reason why after thousands of years of evolution, you have the ability to remain curious. Nature abhors excess and will do away with that which is unnecessary. We would not have this “curious” sense, if it had not proven integral to our survival.
This dog has the right idea! Leave no stone unturned in your quest for knowledge!
One powerful exercise that I saw in a book designed to help grow your cognitive abilities, suggest to formulate 100 questions in a single session. It’s important to go all the way up to 100 because you’ll find that you will come to rough patches and start draw blanks. When you do so, do not give up and embrace this feeling. Challenge yourself. Seek to become one with it and move through it. Do not give up. Push through it.
The questions can range in every shape and size; from “What is the color red?” to “What is the meaning of life?” to “Why does man walk upright”; From “Why did my girlfriend in 7th grade dump me” to “Why is she contacting me now and sending me pictures of her baby?”. It’s important to understand you are not seeking the answers in this exercise. It’s the QUESTION that is most important. Cultivate an insatiable, unsatisfiable, thirst for knowledge.
Interview with the Flirtexter: Debra explains Flirtexting 101
A few weeks ago, I posted the popular “Art of Text, Part I”. To this day, it remains the single most popular post on the blog. In it, I cited the recently released book Flirtexting by Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz. These girls have been taking the world by storm with their new book and appeared on the Tyra Banks show a few weeks ago (You can watch the full interview on their site Flirtexting.com). Through word of mouth and a bit of six degrees of separation, the blog came to their attention. After many weeks of courtship, love letters and flower sending, I was finally able to track down Debra and she agreed to an interview.Debra is a force to be reckoned with, forming her own personal shopping company, Fern Estelle, that has dressed some of the hottest
Ms. Debra Goldstein
A-list Celebs in Hollywood, it’s clear that she has some serious game. After speaking with these two girls and reading their book, it dawned on me that they are really teaching “Text-Defense for Women.” Guys are going to use whatever tools at their disposal to get the girl. The text is simply the latest and greatest in our arsenal. What Debra and Olivia have done is give a framework for how women should respond to a clueless guy who has forgotten that the cell phone can STILL place calls. Texting is not a replacement for phone calling… It is another way of getting to know someone and feeling them out in a way that is very low-pressure and is exactly where most guys want to start off…So unless you are still using a typewriter to schedule your dates, I suggest you read up!
Without further ado…
Ethan: You meet a hot guy at a bar on Saturday…You give him your contact information and you totally dig him. How do you feel when a guy Facebook Friends you the next day verses texting or calling? For instance, when I asked other woman about a guy who phonecalls the next day…they ALL described this guy as overly eager and this usually translated into loser and they became not-interested. Texting is my personal method of choice, but it seems that texting and Facebook friend request are now the next step in the “courtship” process in the information age. How do you feel about this?
Deb and Liv
Debra: We all know that when we meet someone we like, the first thing we do is google them or ask them to be our friend on Facebook. It’s a mixture of curiosity and taking precaution that makes us want a little bit more info before putting ourselves out there. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with that. Because lets face it, if a new guy Facebook’s me and I see in his photos that he always wears V-Neck t-shirts, gels his hair, and lists Brokeback Mountain as his favorite movie, I know in advance that this relationship is not going to work. Yes, judging a book by its cover is wrong, but we all do it. Trust your instincts. There are plenty of fish in the Facebook sea.
Ethan: What do you think of guys who ASK you out on dates through text? Some women don’t mind while others that I’ve asked call this LAME. I, personally, reserve flirting for text messaging and CALL to plan dates…
Debra: In the world of dating I have found that finding a person who you have a special connection with comes far and few between. In a way, I am glad for this because it makes finding that person and those relationships that much more special. You know it when you see it. So when I give a guy my number and he chooses to “text me out” instead of asking me out over a telephone call, what that does is shows me where he stands and where he sees this relationship going…which is, not very far. There is nothing wrong with that, it just means that this guy doesn’t see as much potential in having a serious relationship with me as a guy who decides to call me to ask me out. Knowing that is key! NOW with younger couples (i.e.: only dated after text) a guy who truly likes a girl might just text her first because he grew up in the age of Flirtexting and its all he knows. Be aware of this if you are under 21.
Ethan: From your past experiences, what has been the BEST text you’ve received and why? Describe the components of the BPT (Best Possible Text) that a guy should follow to get you out on a date with him after only meeting him once? Dos and Dont’s…
Debra: Guys need to be aware that their initial Flirtext to a girl is so important that we call it their “second first impression.” Where as before we judge guys by their “package”, today we judge guys by their “flirtexts”. Therefore their initial initial flirtext needs to be well thought out and perfect. The components in a perfect initial flirtext are as follows:
Deb and TUI
1. Never ask a girl out in your initial flirtext. You need to feel out if she actually likes you or if she just gave you her number so that you would leave her alone.
2. Bring up something that happened when you met or poke fun of something the two of you talked about. This will A) Trigger her memory as to who you are and B) Show her that you are thoughtful, clever, and a good listener.
3. Say something funny. Every girl lists “funny” as one of the top three qualities she looks for in a man. Make her laugh and you are on the right path to that first date.
For further information, be sure to follow Flirtexting on Twitter (http://www.twitter.com/flirtexting) and be sure to check out their website (www.flirtexting.com)
Man Law #59 – Never Slavishly Follow Accepted Wisdom!
If there is one thing that the Unbreakable Man Laws hopes to instill, it’s the ability to think independently and critically of a situation. Find your own solutions. Read many different viewpoints even ones you disagree with. It’s important to always question the establishment and remember to understand the basis behind the decision rather than accepting it merely as “law” (pun intended). The reason behind this is it is often when we challenge our previously held belief system that we go through the most growth.
"Buy Me Flowers Dummy!"
Someone once told me a great story illustrating this point while I was standing in line at GNC purchasing Whey Protein. I do not have the slightest idea how we started talking about this topic in a Health Supplements store, but the gentlemen told me the following:
A family meeting for Thanksgiving Dinner is preparing the Turkey for that night. The mother, Ann, is having her kids, Barbara and John, help her with cooking the dish. Before placing the Turkey in the stove, the kids are told to cut off the top half of the turkey.
Both Barbara and John grow up and have kids and tell them the same thing.
“Mary, you have to cut the top half of the Turkey off before placing it in the stove.”
At one Thanksgiving, Ann, who is now a Grandmother, is helping with cooking dinner, and sees Mary cutting the top half off the turkey and she ask the child “What are you doing?”
Mary replies, “I’m cutting the top half off the Turkey! Just like Mom said!”
Ann turns to Mary’s mother, Barbara, also standing in the kitchen, “Honey, when I told you to cut the top half off the Turkey, it was because when we bought the house, our stove wasn’t big enough to fit the whole thing in it!”
When I went through college, I was only beginning to realize how the difference in upbringings and how so many people from so many different backgrounds could contribute to a situation in their own unique way. We gained strength in our difference of opinions. It forced us to understand one another rather than accepting what our parents, or even Grandparents might have taught us about others. If you are a Democrat, ask a Republican what they think of a situation; If you like Rock, ask someone who likes Rap what they think of a song; If you are a Yankees Fan, continue to dislike the Red Sox (nothing good can come of that partnership).
Question everything!
Questioning the established way of doing things is different from rebelling against the established way. Perhaps there is a solid reason why we look both ways before crossing the street. Don’t just jay-walk because you can…
"Thoroughly Think It Through!"
Even more important than the answer to the question is the process you go through to discover it. Many individuals including myself have forgotten what it is like to REALLY do research. In the pre-google era, researching topics could take hours using the library’s card catalog system. When you went to the library to do research, you spent hours finding books and gathering articles. Nowadays, if we have to search longer than five minutes on a single subject, we declare the topic unanswerable.
Don’t give up so easily.
The process to finding the answer is more important than the answer itself. The persistence and strength you gain through your search for the truth, will pay off in the long run in all things – whether it is relationships, money, or your career.
With that said:
- The World Really IS Flat…
- The Moon really IS made out of cheese.
- British people really DO have bad teeth…
- Africa really IS a country.
- Women Really DO want you to tell them how you feel…
Good luck! This is Ethan Bishop. Over and out.
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