Man Law #69 – There is Only One Direction – FORWARD!
A few years ago back in college, I fell into the worse rut of my life. I was 21, I had enough credits to be a junior but had not completed any courses in my major. I was crushed from a life of partying, one-night stands that I tried turning into long-term one-night stands, and one failed relationship after another. I went from going to the gym 4-5 times a week to 4-5 times a month if that. I stayed in bed all day because I was too hung over to walk to class. Things were going downhill and fast. There’s a word for this that I wouldn’t learn until a few years later – depression.
After two semesters of this life style, I decided to take a semester off and “recalibrate”. I knew I would finish school but I needed to get refocused and figure out where my life was going. I moved back home after living parent-free for 4 years which just about killed my social life but at the time it was the best thing for me. I went through a slew of books, music, speeches, and anything I could find to get out of this ditch I found myself in. I had always been a good student so the question I started asking was “What happened?“.
One day, while flipping TV channels I came across a movie and a man that would forever change the way I looked at things.
There are a few of you readers out there who know this movie and probably started grinning to yourself once you read it. Let me preface the this with – I’ve never been a huge fan of war movies based on true stories or documentaries. I never dug history class anymore than the next guy, never watched hours of the History channel or had a father that could talk about being in any war, let alone the Great War. So it was quite surprising when I came upon a movie on TV that quite possibly changed my life. I can only imagine what the experience had been for the men under his command once he stepped on the scene.
By being a man, you are obligated to do certain things in life – open car doors for women, help old people cross the street, know every line from The Godfather (Parts I and II) and watch the opening scene from the movie Patton. Before I continue, click below. It may just change your life.
For those of you who don’t know, General Patton is considered by many historians to be one of the greatest war heroes in the world and certainly of America. His whole way of thinking was focused on efficiency and getting the job done. Any man can benefit from learning these skills and dispensing with anything that keeps you from achieving your goals. Patton was an extremely controversial figure and he certainly wasn’t without his flaws, but he had unrivaled leadership abilities which is why he stood out and was promoted to being a General.
If there was any one event that I would give credit towards as a turning point during this depression I found myself in, it would be this movie. I found the speech incredibly inspiring and I must have watched the movie close to a dozen times. The following quote sank into my skull:
“There’s another thing I want you to remember. I don’t want any messages saying we’re holding our position. We are advancing constantly and not holding onto anything except the enemy…“-Patton
From then on, I applied this philosophy to everything I did in my life – towards studying, towards the gym, towards women, towards anything that I had an interest in – Hell, I’m even using it right now with this blog. Slowly but surely, things started to pick up. I found a purpose. I re-applied to school the following semester, got in, graduated and did better than ever before. If you are not constantly making progress and building momentum, you are traveling backwards.There is only one direction, Gentlemen, and that is forward! For those of you who have been reading the blog consistently, you’ve witnessed it yourself. You may have seen it grow from 300 to well over 10,000 readers in only a few months. This was no accident. Sure, everyone has good days and bad days, but you stay focused and keep building.
There are a lot of statements floating around about what the goal of the blog is and how its about picking up women. Forget that. It’s about picking yourself up. As just about anyone can attest, women are drawn to those that emit success, drive and promise. You don’t have to be an NFL player or a famous actor to have a beautiful woman by your side, but you do have to have characteristics about yourself that show that you are going somewhere with your life and would make her feel safe in your world. Leading your life, taking chances, and going after what you want is one way of doing these things. If this blog helps you realize the leader in yourself, then its been a success.
If our 18-year old virgin Grandfathers can storm the beaches of Normandy, I know that any one of you can speak up and talk to that girl you’ve been crushing on at the party. Stop thinking and Go forward. Do it!
“All right, you sons of bitches, you know how I feel. I’ll be proud to lead you wonderful guys into battle anytime, anywhere. That’s all” – Patton